Top 10 Best Healing Broken Heart Books July 2012
These are the top resources for healing from a broken heart and learning how to attract a true loving partner.
1. Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
It’s over—and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you canmove past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.
Getting Past Your Breakupis a proven roadmap for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of clients and readers transform their love lives. Now, she’ll help you put your energy back where it belongs—on you. Her plan includes:
• The rules of disengagement: how and why to go “no contact” with your ex • How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life • The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships • What to do when you can’t stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house
Complete with inspiring stories from real people and strategies to jump-start the moving-on process, Getting Past Your Breakup is the most effective plan for getting permanently past a breakup, getting your confidence back, and opening yourself to true love.
An estimated 43 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in separation or divorce, a grim reminder that most all of us experiences at least one painful breakup in our lifetimes; speaker and certified grief therapist Elliot has come to understand that many aren’t successful in overcoming that pain, which can stall anyone’s personal and professional life indefinitely. Using her personal experience and stories from her practice, Elliott provides sound advice for those still driving by the ex’s house or obsessed with self-blame. She advises a cold-turkey, “No Contact” blanket rule, but doesn’t ignore the reality of situations involving mutual friends or a shared workplace, and provides seven rules for making things easier on the kids. As the end of a relationship can be much like the death of a loved one, Elliott also reviews the grief process and its importance in processing loss. While working through grief and putting time into serious self-examination won’t necessarily “transform your life into everything you’ve always wanted it to be,” the payoff should be steady progress toward a mended heart, a clear conscience and a stronger sense of self.
One of the most directly helpful books on the subject of loss ever written, the first edition of this comforting and inspiring book, published in 1976, sold nearly two million copies. This completely revised and expanded edition encompasses not only the medical and psychological advances in the treatment of loss, but also the authors’ own experiences.
The book is formatted in pairs of facing pages. On the lefthand page is straightforward prose; on the righthand pages (with a few exceptions) are short, original poems. This presentation I found extremely powerful. The poems connect in a way that the prose can’t; and the prose lends strength and validity and concrete information to the fellings expressed in the poetry. The combined effect is one of knowledge and empathy.
If you are going through the loss of a loved one, or, in fact, any kind of a loss at all, this book will give you comfort… it will put things in perspective for you, without demeaning or trivializing your feelings, and it will leave you in a place from which you can move on.
The authors provide very practical advice, and reassure the reader that his/her chaotic emotions are a natural part of the grieving (and healing) process. “How to Survive the Loss of a Love” is an essential purchase for anyone grieving a breakup or divorce.
3. The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life
Like Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s groundbreaking On Death and Dying, Susan Anderson’s book clearly defines the five phases of a different kind of grieving–grieving over a lost relationship. An experienced professional who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than two decades, Susan Anderson gives this subject the serious attention it deserves. The Journey From Abandonment to Healing is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups–whether they are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether they are caught up in patterns that sabotage their own relationships, or they’re in a relationship where they no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery.
Abandonment is defined as an involuntary separation. Some symptoms include loss of control of the situation, separation anxiety and yearning for the lost love, hoping for the possibility of the lost love’s return and the desparation caused by this desire
The book also covers in great detail the physiology behind emotional withdrawal symptoms of abandonment, including the loss of opioids (hormones) which is similar to heroin withdrawal; the significance of extreme changes in appetite patterns; Post Traumatic Stress Disorder; memory loss; the desire to self-medicate to endure the loss; and how society acknowledges those grieving over a death but not over a lost love.
Finally, Dr. Anderson gives some effective exercises in overcoming the crippling symptoms of abandonment. The exercises are not “pat” answers as found in some mainstream books and magazines. These are extensive, healing exercises requiring vulnerable, self-introspection.
5. How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life
Suffering from a broken heart? Afraid you’ll never get over this feeling of emptiness and loss? You can, and with the help of this easy-to-follow program of action, you will.
Follow Howard Bronson and Mike Riley as they lead you through their thirty-day plan for recovering from your broken heart. They will guide you through a brief period of mourning for your loss, and then the process of rebuilding yourself and your life. You are encouraged to enjoy good memories of the relationship that’s just ended, while remembering the reasons for the breakup. You will learn to take responsibility for your own emotions, face your fears, and ultimately to seek new people and new experiences. Find out:
·How and why to cry ’til dry ·Good ways to beat loneliness ·Why it pays to forgive your ex ·How to “let go” of old memories and resentments
How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days prescribes a wide array of tested and proven insights and exercises. After thirty days of active self-restoration, your heart will be healed and whole again–and you’ll be ready for anything. Of course, your feelings of grief, hurt, or shame may come and go. But in less than a month, you can be ready to deal with life’s new challenges with a positive sense of emotional balance you may never have had before.
6. Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One
Is it possible to find love again after a breakup, death, or divorce?
At the end of a relationship, it can sometimes feel like the end of the world. Devastation, loneliness, and bitterness are some emotions that exist due to a breakup, divorce, or the loss of a loved one. But with the help of this compassionate guide, Dr. John Gray expresses that you will survive and tells you how to find love again.
While the process of healing is similar with both sexes, there are distinct differences between the ways men and women heal their bruised hearts. In Mars and Venus Starting Over, Dr. Gray offers gender-specific advice on how to:
- Deal with pain
- Find forgiveness
- Discover the strength to let go
- Rebuild confidence
- Rise to the challenge of finding fulfillment again
Filled with gentle guidance, healing practices, and compassionate wisdom, Mars and Venus Starting Over will help men and women explore the meaning of loss, find their way through the healing process, and discover the secret to moving on.
A breakup, divorce, or loss of a loved one isn’t just the end of your relationship with that person. It’s a continuation of every feeling of abandonment you’ve ever suffered. It’s the loss of a system of approval you’d come to depend on. The struggle, as Gray points out in Starting Over, isn’t just to find a new partner, but to get over those feelings of abandonment or loss or anger or whatever else gets dredged up by the end of a relationship.
Perhaps the book’s most crucial chapter posits that the best way to get over the loss of love is to focus on the “love” more than the “loss.” That may seem impossible, especially if the bum took off with your best friend, your life savings, and your Lyle Lovett CDs, but Gray didn’t get to be a household name because the advice in his Venus and Mars books doesn’t work. Remembering only the bad parts, Gray says, leaves you with an important part of your emotional being closed to new business.
As for the Venus and Mars stuff, that comes in the second half of the book, when Gray looks at how men and women start new relationships from different points of view, with different priorities (a man might want to have fun with no strings attached; a woman might carry with her a lengthy list of requirements for her next partner, a list that excludes virtually all available men).
If you’ve never read Gray’s work before, you have to be prepared to check your cynicism at the door. This is earnest stuff, but it’s also based on decades of experience counseling clients. He’s not one of those photogenic, nine-times-divorced shrinklets who’s telling you how to conduct your relationships without any real clue of what makes love last. This is the real package: nothing glib, nothing quick and easy, nothing you could’ve figured out from a “Love Is…” cartoon.
There is life after a failed relationship, as long as you Don’t Call That Man!. In this inspirational, revolutionary guide to letting go and moving on after the trauma of a breakup, psychotherapist Rhonda Findling teaches women how to triumph over the almost obsessive urge to pick up the phone.
With its prescriptive, easy-to-follow approach, Don’t Call That Man! is an indispensable tool for weathering the pain of heartbreak. It features simple exercises that provide an emotional outlet for a difficult process; charts that schedule free time away from the telephone; and much more, including:
-Moving on from a ruined relationship -What is an ambivalent man, and how do you get over him? -Mothers, fathers and men -Building and using a support system -The 10-Step program to not call that man
Step-by-step, from heartache to healing, Don’t Call That Man! is a map on how to heal the pain of a lost love; how to overcome feelings of neediness and desperation; and above all, how to regain focus on what’s important and it’s not calling that man. It’s the perfect book to embrace on the way to a new and more gratifying relationship.
“I’m very happy that my book “Don’t Call that Man!A Survival Guide To Letting Go” has given me the opportunity to help so many women let of of relationships that are unhealthy, abusive or not giving them the love they feel they deserve.”
8. The Wisdom of a Broken Heart: How to Turn the Pain of a Breakup into Healing, Insight, and New Love
When a relationship ends, the anguish and disappointment can be devastating. A broken heart is genuinely traumatic. Typical recommendations to keep busy, move on, repair your hidden flaws, and then forget about it may not be helpful. In these pages, Susan Piver reveals that heartbreak actually creates an opportunity for genuine emotional and spiritual transformation, enabling you to emerge on the other side stronger, softer, and capable of loving with renewed confidence.In the years following her own experience, relationship writer Susan Piver searched the world’s wisdom traditions and discovered that heartbreak can be an uncompromising teacher of authenticity, power, and even joy. She shares that wisdom here, with instantaneously recognizable anecdotes, insights, on-the-spot practices, exercises, meditations, and down-to-earth advice that make The Wisdom of a Broken Heart a steadying prescription of solace and encouragement, wisdom and humor during the hardest time of your life. Like an infinitely patient, trusted friend, Piver tells you in a thousand different ways the most important thing to remember and the easiest to forget: “You’re going to be okay.”
Have you been traumatized by infidelity?
The phrase “broken heart” belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Using PTSD treatment as a model, Dr. Ortman will show you, step by step, how to: • work through conflicting emotions • Understand yourself and your partner • Make important life decisions Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling, and explores heart-wrenchingly familiar case studies of couples struggling with monogamy. By the end of this book, you will have completed the six stages of healing and emerged with a whole heart, a full spirit, and the freedom to love again.
* A psychologist uses post-traumatic stress disorder as a model for the wounded partner to explore rage and emotional pain and learn the secrets of recovery.
* An estimated 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in their marriages.
* Includes spiritual exercises, such as guided meditations and journaling, to aid recovery.
This book is easy to use to find the information you need quickly. This book gives tools for healing in a format that is easily accessible. Ortman outlines the symptoms of post traumatic stress quickly, and explains them well.
In Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learn how to trust again, author David M. Masters explores the many types of betrayals that can take place in one’s life, how the pain from these experiences can block the suffering victims from untold peace, love and prosperity, how to promote healing and re-engage good fortune and how to live a happier, more productive and better life.
No stranger to the emotional pain of betrayal, Masters helps the reader discover how the relationship enabled the transgressor to conduct the breach of trust in the first place. Though thorough self-examination, documentation and analysis, helps the victim regain control of their life.
The emotional pain from failed relationships can cause the injured party’s life to implode, giving way to depression and stagnation. By using the techniques provided in Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learning to trust again, the author coaches readers through effective visualization exercises and rituals that will assist victims of betrayal to not only get back on track, but to excel in a positive future with renewed spiritual energy and awakening.
Covering a wide-range of possible betrayal of trust, no stone is left unturned, and these strategies can be applied to any type of emotional assault that has resulted in broken trust; anything from broken contracts to failed marriages. Transgressions are turned into episodic growth spurts, leading to a general understanding of the human condition, while bolstering self-growth.
The catastrophic breach of trust, once thought of as a major negative experience, can be translated into an empowering time of spiritual growth that can catapult the afflicted into a new life of love, happiness, generosity, forgiveness and renewed faith in endless possibilities.
If you’ve suffered a betrayal at the hands of another, you can reclaim your life, and enjoy the best this life has to offer by following the guidelines set forth in Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learn how to trust again.
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