Top 10 Learning to Trust Again Resources March 2012

Top 10 Learning to Trust Again Resources March 2012

If you’ve suffered betrayal in your relationship – there is hope. These books can help you heal and learn how to trust again.

1. After the Affair: Healing the Pain 6. Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves
2. Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust 7. The Courage to Trust: A Guide
3. Trusting Life: Overcoming the Fear 8. Trust Betrayal: Dealing with breach of trust
4. Who’s Got Your Back: Breakthrough Program 9. Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken
5. Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again 10. When Your Lover Is a Liar

1. After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

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For the 70 percent of couples who have been affected by extramarital affairs, this is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship –– written by a nationally known therapist considered an expert on infidelity.

When I was 15, I was raped. That was nothing compared to your affair. The rapist was a stranger; you, I thought, were my best friend.

There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self–respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow.

After the Affair is the first book to help readers survive this crisis. Written by a clinical psychologist who has been treating distressed couples for 22 years, it guides both hurt and unfaithful partners through the three stages of healing: Normalizing feelings, deciding whether to recommit and revitalizing the relationship. It provides proven, practical advice to help the couple change their behavior toward each other, cultivate trust and forgiveness and build a healthier, more conscious intimate partnership.

2. Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

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Refusing to pander to audiences expecting Dr. Phil-type quick fixes, Glass (who has appeared on Oprah herself) chooses “a new, fact-based, scientifically and therapeutically responsible approach” to a subject she contends is fraught with public and professional misconceptions. Drawing on research studies (her own and others’) and clinical cases from her 25 years as a psychotherapist, she explores “the new crisis of infidelity” resulting from platonic relationships that become progressively intense. Personal and professional friendships between men and women have become so prevalent and accepted that, according to Glass, even “good” people in “good” marriages can be swept away in a riptide of emotional intimacy more potent than sheer sexual attraction. Glass scrutinizes affairs and offers well-defined guidelines, including tips for determining how vulnerable individuals and relationships are to temptation, and prescriptions for keeping relationships “safe,” repairing betrayal-induced damages and recovering from the trauma. Glass’s credentials and commitment lend this book credence as a valuable resource; Staeheli’s easy, personable style and the well-organized format make it user-friendly, too.

3. Trusting Life: Overcoming the Fear and Beliefs That Block Peace and Happiness

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Fear and distrust keep us from living the life we were meant to live, and they are the greatest hurdles to seeing the truth about life–that it is good, abundant, supportive, and potentially joyous. There’s nothing more important than seeing this truth, because the degree to which we trust life is the degree to which we can be happy and at peace.
Trusting Life is a deep exploration into the mystery of who we are, why we suffer, why we don’t trust life, and how to become more trusting. It offers evidence that life is trustworthy and tools for overcoming the fear and beliefs that keep us from falling in love with life.
From Trusting Life: “If we persist in being involved with our egoic mind, it will be difficult to discover the truth about reality-that living in reality, instead of the ego’s virtual reality, is a peaceful, safe, and joyous place and that within us is the wisdom and guidance we need to be happy and fulfilled. Being in the moment is where true happiness lies, but we won’t discover that if we’re wrapped up in the ego’s world and believing the ego’s perspective, which is one of fear and distrust.”

4. Who’s Got Your Back: The Breakthrough Program to Build Deep, Trusting Relationships That Create Success–and Won’t Let You Fail

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Six years ago, author and management consultant Ferazzi wrote Never Eat Alone, about networking and developing empathy with clients; since then, he’s founded his own company (Ferazzi Greenlight), and the challenge has taught him the value of “a group that cared about and encouraged” him, “totally infused with excitement, optimism, energy, creativity and hope.” Trying to recreate the dynamic interactions that defined work at his former employer, Deloitte & Touche, Ferrazzi discovered that, in every sphere of life, fostering a “peer-to-peer collaborative process,” based in interlinked support groups, creates a safe space where criticism, accountability and self-correction flourish (think Weight Watchers or Alcoholics Anonymous). This bit of understanding, Ferrazzi concludes, is something “great leaders and peak performers throughout history have always known,” and his lively, anecdotal style welcomes average readers to the practice of building “lifeline relationships.” Though Ferrazzi’s upbeat spirit is encouraging and his lessons valuable, an over-emphasis on the ideal (“There’s nothing inherently nonsupportive about today’s corporate culture”) fails to address many hard realities facing today’s American worker.

5. Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships

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How do you know you’re ready to trust again … and what does it take to be ready? Painful relationships violate our trust, causing us to close our hearts. But to experience the freedom and love God designed us for, we eventually have to take another risk. In this breakthrough book, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of the past to discover how to re-enter a life of intimate relationships. Whether you’re trying to restore a current relationship or begin a new one, Townsend gives practical tools for establishing trust and finding the intimacy you long for. Beyond Boundaries will help you reinstate closeness with someone who broke your trust; discern when true change has occurred; reestablish appropriate connections in strained relationships; create a safe environment that helps you trust; and restore former relationships to a healthy dynamic. You can move past relational pain to trust again. Beyond Boundaries will show you how.

6. Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy

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Most relationship problems are essentially trust issues, explains psychotherapist David Richo. Whether it’s fear of commitment, insecurity, jealousy, or a tendency to be controlling, the real obstacle is a fundamental lack of trust—both in ourselves and in our partner.
Daring to Trustoffers key insights and practical exercises for exploring and addressing our trust issues in relationships. Topics include:

  • How we learn early in life to trust others (or not to trust them)
  • Why we fear trusting
  • Developing greater trust in ourselves as the basis for trusting others
  • How to know if someone is trustworthy
  • Naïve trust vs. healthy, adult trust
  • What to do when trust is broken

Ultimately, Richo explains, we must develop trust in four directions: toward ourselves, toward others, toward life as it is, and toward a higher power or spiritual path. These four types of trust are not only the basis of healthy relationships, they are also the foundation of emotional well-being and freedom from fear.

7. The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships

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You’re probably familiar with the old saying, once bitten, twice shy. It describes a painful uncertainty many of us feel every day as we try to engage with other people. Acts of betrayal from our pasts can lead us into long cycles of wariness and mistrust. An inability to trust wisely can lead us to loneliness and isolation, or worse—putting our trust in the wrong people too easily.

The good news is that the ability to trust is both a choice and a skill that you can develop. You do not have to be controlled by the past. To a child, trust is a feeling that comes and goes, always under the influence of other people. Only as an adult can you learn how and when to trust more wisely. This book is a warm and friendly guide to achieving greater self-confidence and deeper levels of intimacy and trust.

Helped along by the book’s exercises and ideas for self-reflection, you’ll begin to develop new patterns of trust. Start by getting comfortable trusting your own instincts. Then, experiment with developing relationships based on mutual trust and curiosity. Learn from and then let go of old betrayals that have impaired your trust-building skills, and approach the rest of your life with a renewed sense of purpose and belonging.

8. Trust Betrayal: Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learn to trust again

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In Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learning to trust again, the author explores the many types of betrayals that can take place in one’s life, how the pain from these experiences can block the suffering victims from untold peace, love and prosperity, how to promote healing and re-engage good fortune and how to live a happier, more productive and better life.
No stranger to the emotional pain of betrayal, he helps the reader discover how the relationship enabled the transgressor to conduct the breach of trust in the first place. Though thorough self-examination, documentation and analysis, helps the victim regain control of their life.
The emotional pain from failed relationships can cause the injured party’s life to implode, giving way to depression and stagnation. By using the techniques provided in Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learning to trust again, the author coaches readers through effective visualization exercises and rituals that will assist victims of betrayal to not only get back on track, but to excel in a positive future with renewed spiritual energy and awakening.
Covering a wide-range of possible betrayal of trust, no stone is left unturned, and these strategies can be applied to any type of emotional assault that has resulted in broken trust; anything from broken contracts to failed marriages. Transgressions are turned into episodic growth spurts, leading to a general understanding of the human condition, while bolstering self-growth.
The catastrophic breach of trust, once thought of as a major negative experience, can be translated into an empowering time of spiritual growth that can catapult the afflicted into a new life of love, happiness, generosity, forgiveness and renewed faith in endless possibilities.
If you’ve suffered a betrayal at the hands of another, you can reclaim your life, and enjoy the best this life has to offer by following the guidelines set forth in Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learning to trust again.

9. Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration

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A few days after an ordinary Valentine’s Day, Cindy Beall’s life changed forever. She listened with disbelief to her husband, Chris, a respected pastor, confess to pornography addiction, numerous affairs, and the startling news that a woman was pregnant with his child.

With raw honesty and intimate knowledge of pain and of God’s power to resurrect something new out of the debris of betrayal, Cindy reveals how to:

  • seek guidance, counseling, and prayer support when deceptions surface
  • help the family heal from the grief and humiliation
  • rebuild trust after porn, sex, and other addictions undermine a relationship
  • protect a marriage from lies and unfaithfulness
  • rely on God to pursue forgiveness and move forward in new promises

Cindy’s compassion, grasp of God’s Word, and the Bealls’ remarkable story will help wives and husbands trust God with their broken hearts and follow His leading, hope, and redemption.

10. When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal

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Have you ever been lied to by a lover? In this straightforward and supportive book, therapist Susan Forward profiles the wide variety of liars, shows you how to deal with the lies — from the benign to the lethal — that these men spin, and gives practical strategies to stop them before they ruin your relationship and, ultimately, your life.

Once you find out the truth about your lover and his lies, what do you do? Forward offers practical, proven, step-by-step methods for healing the wounds caused by his deception and betrayal. She provides all the communication and behavioral techniques you need to deal with a lover’s lies, telling you exactly what to say, when and how to respond to his reactions, and how to present your requirements for staying in the relationship. With understanding and compassion, she helps you decide whether your relationship can be saved and shows you how to move beyond doubt and regret if you feel that it can’t. But whether you stay or go, you can learn to love and trust again.

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Top 10 Best Selling Romance Novels March 2012

Top 10 Best Selling Romance Novels March 2012

Get away with one of the best selling romance novels by your favorite romance authors

1. Ties That Bind by Heather Huffman 6. Danielle Steel’s Betrayal: A Novel
2. The Bastard by Brenda Novak 7. Loving (Bailey Flanigan) by Karen Kingsbury
3. Seeing Julia by Katherine Owen 8. The Wolf Gift (Random House) by Anne Rice
4. The Lucky One by Nicholas Sparks 9. Explosive Eighteen: A Stephanie Plum Novel
5. The Next Always: Inn BoonsBoro #1 10. Highland Blessings by Jennifer Hudson Taylor

1. Ties That Bind by Heather Huffman

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Heather Huffman, author of Bestsellers Throwaway and Jailbird, delivers a romantic comedy of friendship, love and family ties in this vibrant city adventure as a fiercely independent yet vulnerable woman with a weakness for shoes – and sexy British accents – forges a new path that will leave her forever changed.

Kate Yager never had a father, and she never minded – until her mom died. Now, acting on the name called out on her mother’s deathbed, Kate has moved to San Francisco and gotten herself hired by the man she suspects to be her dad. As if a new job, new apartment, and new parent weren’t enough, Kate finds herself head-over-heels in lust with a complete stranger she met at an art show. A stranger who, she later finds out, happens to work in her office.
As her relationships with her friends and father grow stronger, Kate has to confront the decisions of her past to find out whether she can love the man who gave her up, love the man who loves her truly, and even whether she can love herself.

2. The Bastard by Brenda Novak

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To some men honor is just a word…. Jeannette Boucher, a young French beauty from a family left penniless by the revolution, must marry against her will to save them all from ruin. But almost immediately after the vows are spoken, she learns that her old English husband is impotent—and in his desire for an heir, he plans to compromise her in the worst way. Determined to escape such a fate, she stows away on one of His Majesty’s frigates. But a woman alone is in constant danger. To Lieutenant Treynor, honor means everything…. Born a bastard to a wayward marquise, Lieutenant Crawford Treynor was given to a poor farmer to raise and was maltreated until he ran away to join the Royal Navy. Treynor is determined to prove he’s as good as any other man and rise to captain his own frigate. But once he finds Jeannette aboard The Tempest he must decide whether to return her to the man he knows would abuse her—or risk everything, even his life, to keep her safe.

3. Seeing Julia by Katherine Owen

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Julia is no stranger to loss. She has had more than her share of grieving over lost loved ones. Her life seemed to have taken a better turn after marrying Evan Hamilton and especially since the birth of their beautiful son, Reid. But in a strange twist of fate, Julia finds herself grieving once again when her husband, Evan, dies a tragic death. Can Julia start over? Will she start over? Jake Winston believes so. Julia sees Jake at Evan’s funeral, and being around her deceased husband’s best friend proves to be more than a little disconcerting. Being torn between her grief over Evan and the guilt of this incomprehensible, yet undeniable connection to Jake becomes all too much for Julia, nearly pushing her over the edge. Fortunately for Julia, she has an amazing support system in her friends and, surprisingly, … in Jake. Julia begins a journey of healing, knowledge, and finding her way back to the living.

4. The Lucky One

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In his 14th book, bestselling author Nicholas Sparks tells the unforgettable story of a man whose brushes with death lead him to the love of his life.
After U.S. Marine Logan Thibault finds a photograph of a smiling young woman buried in the dirt during his tour of duty in Iraq, he experiences a sudden streak of luck — winning poker games and even surviving deadly combat. Only his best friend, Victor, seems to have an explanation for his good fortune: the photograph — his lucky charm.
Back home in Colorado, Thibault can’t seem to get the woman in the photograph out of his mind and he sets out on a journey across the country to find her. But Thibault is caught off guard by the strong attraction he feels for the woman he encounters in North Carolina – Elizabeth, a divorced mother — and he keeps the story of the photo, and his luck, a secret. As he and Elizabeth embark upon a passionate love affair, his secret soon threatens to tear them apart — destroying not only their love, but also their lives.
Filled with tender romance and terrific suspense, THE LUCKY ONE is an unforgettable story about the surprising paths our lives often take and the power of fate to guide us to true and everlasting love.

5. The Next Always: Book One of the Inn BoonsBoro Trilogy

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The historic hotel in BoonsBoro, Maryland, has endured war and peace, changing hands, even rumored hauntings. Now it’s getting a major facelift from the Montgomery brothers and their eccentric mother. As the architect of the family, Beckett’s social life consists mostly of talking shop over pizza and beer. But there’s another project he’s got his eye on: the girl he’s been waiting to kiss since he was fifteen…

6. Danielle Steel’s Betrayal: A Novel (Random House)

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At thirty-nine, Tallie Jones is a Hollywood legend. Her work as a film director is her passion and the center of her life; one after another, her award-winning productions achieve the rare combination of critical and commercial success. With no interest in the perks of her profession or the glitz and glamour of Los Angeles, Tallie maintains close and loving relationships with her college-age daughter and her aging father, and has a happy collaboration with Hunter Lloyd, her respected producing partner, confidant, and live-in lover. Rounding out the circle and making it all work is Brigitte Parker, Tallie’s devoted personal assistant. Friends since film school, they are a study in contrasts, with Brigitte’s polished glamour balancing Tallie’s artless natural beauty, and her hard-driving, highly organized style a protective shield for Tallie’s casual, down-to-earth approach. As Tallie is in the midst of directing the most ambitious film she has yet undertaken, small disturbances begin to ripple through her well-ordered world. An outside audit reveals troubling discrepancies in the financial records maintained by Victor Carson, Tallie’s longtime, trusted accountant. Mysterious receipts hint at activities of which she has no knowledge. Soon it becomes clear that someone close to Tallie has been steadily funneling away enormous amounts of her money. In the wake of an escalating series of shattering revelations, Tallie will find herself playing the most dangerous game of all—to trap a predator stalking her in plain sight. In this riveting novel, Danielle Steel reveals the dark side of fame and fortune. At the same time, she brilliantly captures a woman’s will to navigate a minefield of hurt and loss—toward a new beginning.

7. Loving (Bailey Flanigan Series) by Karen Kingsbury

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The answers Bailey Flanigan once longed and prayed for are finally becoming clear. In Loving, the fourth and final book in the Bailey Flanigan Series by New York Times bestselling author Karen Kingsbury, Bailey is planning a wedding and making decisions that will shape her future. Bailey enjoys the beginning of her new career and time spent with Brandon while Cody faithfully coaches his team on and off the field. Will she spend her life with Brandon Paul in Los Angeles, or will her heart draw her back to Bloomington, Indiana and Cody Coleman, her first love? Bailey has learned much and grown over the years, but the greatest challenges, the richest joys, and the deepest heartaches are still to come. Featuring members from Karen Kingsbury’s popular Baxter family, Loving completes Bailey and Cody’s story — the finale thousands of fans have been waiting for.

8. The Wolf Gift (Random House) by Anne Rice

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A daring new departure from the inspired creator of The Vampire Chronicles (“unrelentingly erotic . . . unforgettable”—The Washington Post), Lives of the Mayfair Witches (“Anne Rice will live on through the ages of literature”—San Francisco Chronicle), and the angels of The Songs of the Seraphim (“remarkable”—Associated Press). A whole new world—modern, sleek, high-tech—and at its center, a story as old and compelling as history: the making of a werewolf, reimagined and reinvented as only Anne Rice, teller of mesmerizing tales, conjurer extraordinaire of other realms, could create. The time is the present. The place, the rugged coast of Northern California. A bluff high above the Pacific. A grand mansion full of beauty and tantalizing history set against a towering redwood forest. A young reporter on assignment from the San Francisco Observer . . . An older woman welcoming him into her magnificent family home that he has been sent to write about and that she must sell with some urgency . . . A chance encounter between two unlikely people . . . An idyllic night—shattered by horrific unimaginable violence, the young man inexplicably attacked—bitten—by a beast he cannot see in the rural darkness . . . A violent episode that sets in motion a terrifying yet seductive transformation, as the young man, caught between ecstasy and horror, between embracing who he is evolving into and fearing what he will become, soon experiences the thrill of the wolf gift. As he resists the paradoxical pleasure and enthrallment of his wolfen savagery and delights in the power and (surprising) capacity for good, he is caught up in a strange and dangerous rescue and is desperately hunted as “the Man Wolf” by authorities, the media, and scientists (evidence of DNA threatens to reveal his dual existence) . . . As a new and profound love enfolds him, questions emerge that propel him deeper into his mysterious new world: questions of why and how he has been given this gift; of its true nature and the curious but satisfying pull towards goodness; of the profound realization that there may be others like him who are watching—guardian creatures who have existed throughout time who possess ancient secrets and alchemical knowledge. And throughout it all, the search for salvation for a soul tormented by a new realm of temptations, and the fraught, exhilarating journey, still to come, of being and becoming, fully, both wolf and man.

9. Explosive Eighteen: A Stephanie Plum Novel (Stephanie Plum Novels) by Janet Evanovich

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Before Stephanie can even step foot off Flight 127 Hawaii to Newark, she’s knee deep in trouble. Her dream vacation turned into a nightmare, and she’s flying back to New Jersey solo. Worse still, her seatmate never returned to the plane after the L.A. layover. Now he’s dead, in a garbage can, waiting for curbside pickup. His killer could be anyone. And a ragtag collection of thugs and psychos, not to mention the FBI, are all looking for a photograph the dead man was supposed to be carrying. Only one other person has seen the missing photo—Stephanie Plum. Now she’s the target, and she doesn’t intend to end up in a garbage can. With the help of an FBI sketch artist Stephanie re-creates the person in the photo. Unfortunately the first sketch turns out to look like Tom Cruise, and the second sketch like Ashton Kutcher. Until Stephanie can improve her descriptive skills, she’ll need to watch her back. Over at the bail bonds agency things are going from bad to worse. The bonds bus serving as Vinnie’s temporary HQ goes up in smoke. Stephanie’s wheelman, Lula, falls in love with their largest skip yet. Lifetime arch nemesis Joyce Barnhardt moves into Stephanie’s apartment. And everyone wants to know what happened in Hawaii? Morelli, Trenton’s hottest cop, isn’t talking about Hawaii. Ranger, the man of mystery, isn’t talking about Hawaii.  And all Stephanie is willing to say about her Hawaiian vacation is . . . It’s complicated.

10. Highland Blessings by Jennifer Hudson Taylor

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Highland Blessings is the story of a highland warrior who kidnaps the daughter of his greatest enemy and clan chief to honor a promise he made to his dying father. Bryce MacPhearson, a highland warrior, kidnaps Akira MacKenzie on her wedding day to honor a promise he made to his dying father. While Akira s strength in the Lord becomes a witness to Bryce, she struggles to overcome her anger and resentment when he forces her to wed him, hoping to end a half-century-old feud between their clans. While Akira begins to forgive, and Bryce learns to trust, a series of murders leaves a trail of unanswered questions, confusion, and a legacy of hate that once again rises between their families. Clearly, a traitor is in their midst. Now the one man Akira loves no longer trusts her, and her own life is in danger. Can Bryce look beyond his pain and seek the truth? Will Akira discover the threat against her before it s too late? How will God turn a simple promise into bountiful Highland blessings?

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