Top 10 Failing Relationship Books 2012
These are the top resources for relationships that have suffered broken trust, betrayal and breakup. Regain self-confidence, love, romance and learn to trust again.
1. I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship
Price: $9.99
Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.
In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.
2. Getting Past Your Breakup
Price: $9.66
3. Don’t Call That Man!: A Survival Guide to Letting Go
Price: $7.69
There is life after a failed relationship, as long as you Don’t Call That Man!. In this inspirational, revolutionary guide to letting go and moving on after the trauma of a breakup, psychotherapist Rhonda Findling teaches women how to triumph over the almost obsessive urge to pick up the phone.
With its prescriptive, easy-to-follow approach, Don’t Call That Man! is an indispensable tool for weathering the pain of heartbreak. It features simple exercises that provide an emotional outlet for a difficult process; charts that schedule free time away from the telephone; and much more, including:
-Moving on from a ruined relationship
-What is an ambivalent man, and how do you get over him?
-Mothers, fathers and men
-Building and using a support system
-The 10-Step program to not call that man
Step-by-step, from heartache to healing, Don’t Call That Man! is a map on how to heal the pain of a lost love; how to overcome feelings of neediness and desperation; and above all, how to regain focus on what’s important and it’s not calling that man. It’s the perfect book to embrace on the way to a new and more gratifying relationship.
4. Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships
Price: $8.00
How do you know you’re ready to trust again … and what does it take to be ready? Painful relationships violate our trust, causing us to close our hearts. But to experience the freedom and love God designed us for, we eventually have to take another risk. In this breakthrough book, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of the past to discover how to re-enter a life of intimate relationships. Whether you’re trying to restore a current relationship or begin a new one, Townsend gives practical tools for establishing trust and finding the intimacy you long for. Beyond Boundaries will help you reinstate closeness with someone who broke your trust; discern when true change has occurred; reestablish appropriate connections in strained relationships; create a safe environment that helps you trust; and restore former relationships to a healthy dynamic. You can move past relational pain to trust again. Beyond Boundaries will show you how.
5. Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy
Price: $8.61
Most relationship problems are essentially trust issues, explains psychotherapist David Richo. Whether it’s fear of commitment, insecurity, jealousy, or a tendency to be controlling, the real obstacle is a fundamental lack of trust—both in ourselves and in our partner.
Daring to Trust offers key insights and practical exercises for exploring and addressing our trust issues in relationships. Topics include:
- How we learn early in life to trust others (or not to trust them)
- Why we fear trusting
- Developing greater trust in ourselves as the basis for trusting others
- How to know if someone is trustworthy
- Naïve trust vs. healthy, adult trust
- What to do when trust is broken
Ultimately, Richo explains, we must develop trust in four directions: toward ourselves, toward others, toward life as it is, and toward a higher power or spiritual path. These four types of trust are not only the basis of healthy relationships, they are also the foundation of emotional well-being and freedom from fear
6. Red Flags of Love Fraud – 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath
Price: $9.99
You’ve met someone new—someone charming, charismatic and sexy, who has so much in common with you! Oh, sometimes the story doesn’t quite add up, and you feel a little rushed, but this person is head over heels in love with you! Calling all the time! Sending texts and emails! Already talking about forever!
Is it love—or predation? “Red Flags of Love Fraud — 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath,” has the answers.
The author is Donna Andersen, who is also author of Lovefraud.com. Andersen coined the term “love fraud,” and defines it as “the intentional exploitation of an individual through manipulating emotions in a personal relationship.” The people who engage in love fraud, she says, are sociopaths.
No, a sociopath is not always a deranged serial killer—that’s media hype. These people are social predators, who live their lives by exploiting others. Three million to 12 million sociopaths live among us in America. Most are not in jail—they roam freely through all segments of society. They like company, and they really like sex, so sociopaths are always on the hunt for a hookup.
This book explains how sociopaths target and pursue romantic relationships, which are inevitably exploitative relationships. The information is based on more than 2,800 cases that Andersen has collected through Lovefraud.com, and on the results of two Internet surveys completed by Lovefraud readers who loved and lived with these human predators.
RED FLAGS OF LOVE FRAUD explains:
• The top 10 signs of sociopathic suitors (Number One: charisma and charm)
• Why anyone is vulnerable—especially powerful women
• The dangers of online dating
• Why there’s no such thing as “just sex”
• Three steps everyone can take to protect themselves from love fraud
For the first time, “Red Flags of Love Fraud” explains how sociopaths seduce their targets, what makes people vulnerable, and how to avoid these human predators. It’s a must-read book for anyone who is looking for a partner—and anyone who is mystified by the partner they have.
7. How To Believe In Love Again: Opening to Forgiveness, Trust and Your Own Inner Wisdom
Price: $6.99
Most of us start out believing that love can transform our lonely existence into something better. When that doesn’t work out as hoped for or planned, do we dare dream again? How do we get past early, disillusioning experiences which stand solidly in our path to ever believing in love again?
Based on both her professional and personal experiences, Laura Lee Carter, also known as the “Midlife Crisis Queen” online, here weaves together theory, inspiration and practical advice, to help you become a private detective in service to your own self- awareness and personal development. If you wish to gather a deeper understanding of why you fear love so much, and then search out those experiences in your past that have kept you feeling stuck for so long, this book can help.
Together we will explore those negative experiences from your past where you lost your trust in others. Only by first raising your awareness of sensitive areas around your own personal roadblocks like shame, trust, and forgiveness, and then creating new ways to work through past emotional obstacles, is it now possible to access a healthier belief in all that love might have to offer you now.
8. The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships
Price: $9.99
You’re probably familiar with the old saying, once bitten, twice shy. It describes a painful uncertainty many of us feel every day as we try to engage with other people. Acts of betrayal from our pasts can lead us into long cycles of wariness and mistrust. An inability to trust wisely can lead us to loneliness and isolation, or worse—putting our trust in the wrong people too easily.
The good news is that the ability to trust is both a choice and a skill that you can develop. You do not have to be controlled by the past. To a child, trust is a feeling that comes and goes, always under the influence of other people. Only as an adult can you learn how and when to trust more wisely. This book is a warm and friendly guide to achieving greater self-confidence and deeper levels of intimacy and trust.
Helped along by the book’s exercises and ideas for self-reflection, you’ll begin to develop new patterns of trust. Start by getting comfortable trusting your own instincts. Then, experiment with developing relationships based on mutual trust and curiosity. Learn from and then let go of old betrayals that have impaired your trust-building skills, and approach the rest of your life with a renewed sense of purpose and belonging.
9. Trust Betrayal: Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learn how to trust again
Price: $8.97
In Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learn how to trust again the author explores the many types of betrayals that can take place in one’s life, how the pain from these experiences can block the suffering victims from untold peace, love and prosperity, how to promote healing and re-engage good fortune and how to live a happier, more productive and better life.
No stranger to the emotional pain of betrayal, the author helps the reader discover how the relationship enabled the transgressor to conduct the breach of trust in the first place. Though thorough self-examination, documentation and analysis, helps the victim regain control of their life.
The emotional pain from failed relationships can cause the injured party’s life to implode, giving way to depression and stagnation. By using the techniques provided in Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learning to trust again, the author coaches readers through effective visualization exercises and rituals that will assist victims of betrayal to not only get back on track, but to excel in a positive future with renewed spiritual energy and awakening.
Covering a wide-range of possible betrayal of trust, no stone is left unturned, and these strategies can be applied to any type of emotional assault that has resulted in broken trust; anything from broken contracts to failed marriages. Transgressions are turned into episodic growth spurts, leading to a general understanding of the human condition, while bolstering self-growth.
The catastrophic breach of trust, once thought of as a major negative experience, can be translated into an empowering time of spiritual growth that can catapult the afflicted into a new life of love, happiness, generosity, forgiveness and renewed faith in endless possibilities.
If you’ve suffered a betrayal at the hands of another, you can reclaim your life, and enjoy the best this life has to offer by following the guidelines set forth in Trust Betrayal, Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learn how to trust again, by David M. Masters.
10. When Love Stumbles: How to Rediscover Love, Trust, and Fulfillment in your Relationship
Price: $9.87
Discover the 8 Most Common Ways Love Stumbles and What to Do About Them
Falling in love is easy. Staying deeply committed to your relationship, even when love stumbles, is the greater challenge. Eight major stumbling blocks can cause even the most passionate couples to drift apart-and chances are, if you’re in a committed relationship, you’ve brushed up against at least a few of these. When Love Stumbles offers a plan for reversing problematic relationship patterns by making simple changes to your everyday habits. You’ll find that these small but important steps will help your relationship find its footing once again.
Remove the eight major stumbling blocks:
- End disillusionment and find fulfillment
- Banish boredom by adding excitement to your relationship
- Turn destructive conflicts into constructive challenges
- Shift your focus from self-preservation to putting your partner first
- Stop struggling solo and start operating as a team
- Go from feeling like you’re on trial to feeling unconditionally loved
- Instead of pursuing outside interests, recommit to each other
- Different dreams? Find common ground in new mutual goals
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